This blog was originally posted on August 12, 2019 on another blog platform.
Often, centers and clinics such as ours get accused of caring only for the pre-born child and not caring for the woman. Let me just say here and now that this is NOT TRUE. We care very much about the woman who comes to us. That is why we do everything we can to get to know her, to find out what is happening in her life…to show her love, compassion, grace. We DO care, and each person who walks through our doors knows that immediately. Let me share how we do that by relating three real life stories that have walked through our door. Of course, I never use the real name of any individual.
“Precious” comes into our clinic. She has called looking for an abortion. We do tell her that we do not perform or refer for abortion, but we would love to talk with her and give her all the information she is going to need to make an INFORMED decision. “Precious” comes in and it becomes very apparent that she does NOT want to have an abortion … but the people with her are trying to coerce her into making a decision to end the life of her child. So, how did we talk with “Precious?” We gave her the truth, in love. We explained to her through pictures and videos the development of a baby. We informed her of the choices she has before her: 1. To choose life and parent her child; 2. To choose life and make a parenting plan of adoption; or 3. To choose abortion. We do all we can to guide her toward the option of “choosing life.” As we explain each of these options, we let her know she is not alone … we are here to help her if she chooses to parent her child through all of the FREE education and resources we offer here at Life Options Clinic. We can also help her in making a parenting plan of adoption by referring her to adoption agencies that we partner with. We then EDUCATE her on the different types of abortions … what is involved, what the risks are, what the long-term effects can be. Do we hope and pray that she will choose option 1 or 2. You bet we do. But, we also know the choice IS hers. So, we pray. And, we love. And, we are present for her. Let me tell you that we didn’t want to let “Precious” leave with these people. Now, there’s no way we can keep someone from leaving, but as we saw their treatment of her and read her statement about how she “felt safe” with us, we truly did not want to let her go. But, we had to. However, she knew we cared. She knew we were here for her anytime she needed us. And, we did follow up. “Precious” came back in with people who DID care for her and wanted to help her parent her child. She had an ultrasound. She saw her baby … not a blob of tissue, but a living, moving, growing human being. “Precious” said she is going to choose life and come to our Clinic to take our pre-natal, parenting, and life-skill classes. We pray she will. She is still abortion-vulnerable because of the other negative influences in her life, BUT, she knows we care about her and her baby. She knows we are a safe place.
And then there is “Beloved.” “Beloved” came in very abortion-determined. We spoke the same truth to her as we spoke to “Precious.” She had an ultrasound, and her baby did somersaults and moved all over the place. At one time, it even looked like the baby was waving. But, at the end of our time with her, “Beloved” was still unsure as to what her decision would be. Again, did we want to see her walk out? NO, we did not. But, we had to let her go, knowing we had spoken truth to her…knowing we had loved her and let her know that she would not be alone on this journey. And, she knows that we are here for her … We are here for her to help her if she does choose abortion. She will still need us. Now, we just pray.
And then, there is “Hope.” “Hope” is not abortion-minded; she’s just scared. She’s not sure how she can walk through this journey. She doesn’t have a lot of help and support. She does not want to end the life of her baby. She just needs help. And when she finds out all that we offer here at Life Options Clinic … she knows she can face this journey. We don’t sugar-coat it. It won’t be easy. She may have to delay some of her dreams and goals. But the key word is, DELAY, not cancel. So, “Hope” comes to our classes … pre-natal, parenting, child-safety, relationships, life-skills, etc. And, “Hope” earns “Baby Bucks” as she comes to the classes. This is “monopoly-type” money that “Hope” can use in our “Baby Boutique” to purchase diapers, clothes, a new bed, a new car seat, and many other items she is going to need on her parenting journey. We give her the tools she is going to need on this journey. We are a support system, a safe place, a refuge for “Hope” and her pre-born child. And, she knows that we care about HER. We don’t give “Hope” a hand-out; we give her a “hand-up.” We empower and enable her to parent. Our staff and volunteers become “Hope’s” other family. We are the new aunts and uncles, grandparents, and friends she knows she can count on to love her and encourage her.